Joe's-personal-comments: Esther Perel: The 3 Attachment Styles & Why You’re Struggling With Love!
joe's survival strategy: nobody tells me what to do with my time; nobody tells me where to go; MOm's strategy; I need to have something around to direct and be lawful about, and tell it how to transform. new relatinoships with Joe would be: he's not dancing to try to save his security from Mom... but he's still open to communicating or being there for his highest excitement. WE're not singular creatures; our conditioning defines who we are; who I am with defines who I am, and how I shoudl be, the conditioning of the moment, should not be up to my brain to hold certain set patterns of "this is the way I should act at the hot dog stand with Sandy who's serving me; I"ll just be gruff and direct and get the transaction done, because nobody messes with my time or my direction, etc." but actually I can allow the conditioning of each of my partnerships; and doing that is true-cosmic-love; it brings out the best in me and in them; both of us change and I